Kira Ruthlynne

‘They’ say…when a guy is really into you, he’ll be the first to call, the first to text and go out of his way to be with you. Time and time… this has actually come to prove itself to me. So what then when the silence starts? That’s where I’m confused at. In my mind…everything is going fine…but something else is going on in his head. So the “Hint” starts. Which is the guy> Maybe if I stop calling, answering texts, not answer the phone….she will get the hint I’m not inter

Every so often we meet someone that leaves an imprint in our memories. Something special about them that we couldn't let go...emotions and feelings for them staying in the back of our minds and hearts. These people are fortunate enough to stay with us even after they are gone.Things happened that cause the relationship to go astray. We've all learned immensely from these people (good and bad things) , things that prepare to be a stronger and smarter in future relationshi

I feel so foolish....so naive and blind.. Am I really that stupid for believing and having some hope and faith,,,? Instead it leads me to more of a broken-heart... Just when I think and see that something is better and different I'm proven wrong...in so many ways... It's me that's the fool to stay and hope...I'm the dumb one for opening up at all. I'm afraid if I shut out completely they'll never be able to get back in my heart... I'll be cool... aloof .... distant and

I've heard this so many times...some from sweet talkers who I think are for real, that calling me 'sweetie' or 'baby' shows me that they are serious about commitement...that it's a form of actions to show me they are serious...about me... Then from others who are honest about taking it little bit at a time, just going slow...no real leading on with emotional sweet words or affection... 'Seeing where it goes' is a dangerous term I think guys overuse without really thinking o

I am not going to settle for less anymore- this means >>No more murky, no more gray, no more undefined, and no more undeclared.And if at all possible try to know someone as best you can before you get naked. I had a guy friend of mine flat out tell me the guys I’ve been associating with are straight up JERKS quoting “you should decide exactly what you want and then not settle for anything less.” And I stopped and realized….he’s absolutely right. Sure I’ve had in mind what

It's never an easy thing to end a relationship...someone will always be hurt- it's inevitable. How you handle the person and situation will show respect and make it easier to end things as fair and 'good' as possible and there will be times that,that won't be possible. It's been a hard road...and there are times where I've been wrong...seeking 'things' in the wrong place, searching in men something perfect that did not exist. The inevitable break-up starts simple...then see

I’ve come to realize…that’s a deadly word to have in a relationship. The kind of expectation women have from a romance novel…or romance movie…sets too high expectations for a man. This type of expectation…leaves the woman always needing and wanting more from their partner that only leads to trouble. Don’t get me wrong…I’m not saying a guy is incapable of the romance that comes from those stories…. But when a guy says he cares, loves you, wants you in their life…the thoughts

I got inspired by a ‘friends’ post in regards to arguing in a relationship. Now granted the post was for fun with a hint of seriousness, but it got my creativity going… Arguments are a fact of life…family, friends, and dating relationships. There are some things that make them worse in specific relating to specific people. Basis of most arguments I think is this: there’s 2 things about a guy that’s (usually) a fact: 1. They hate Drama 2. They hate to reassure. The smar

Perhaps after all this time Ive learned something valuable. Technically I’ve been single since 2005...uselessly married and thrown into the dark from the ‘dating’ world for 7 years...and now at age 30 being thrown back in...I'm completely rusty,lost and learning like I'm 20 all over again. 10 guys later and even through the heartache I've found myself....and found who I’m looking for and what I'm looking for. Even till this day some of these men still have a part of my heart.

That's right...I said it SEX! Got your attention? Everyone in their sane minds favorite pastime :-) Guys find it as a form of stress reliever-so I've been told- and women like it b.c it makes them feel emotionally more attached to a guy. But then...there's no strings attached.... That's the topic of sex I bring up today... Women's biggest 'weapon' to get a guy .... is sex with no strings attached. Now I'm not speaking about laying out like an all you can eat buffet! I'

Build a relationship...not rush a relationship...like a foundation to a home. When the foundation isn’t strong enough and a relationship is pushed it comes crashing down; shaking, cracking, breaking the foundation that is there...keep forcing a relationship enough times- not even the foundation will be left...and the house becomes completely unbuildable. Yet…with a strong foundation, a beautiful home can be built…forever secure, safe and lovely. It's about chosing better f

You ever wish you had telepathy? Just so you can know what the other is thinking and feeling...so that you can navigate your own thoughts/feelings to be the same. This way you could never doubt or be left in the unknown about whats really going on... The downside of that...is there is no privacy. It wouldn't be fair,but the idea would be nice. Thats the diffrence between men and women....men naturally can sift through the reality of a relationship and know where things st

I’m an internet guru…IT geek…so I end up finding some of the most eligible men…online. So in that, I met someone named Jeremy…lived in South Carolina…and he burned me really bad. There’s some pertinent things I learned from this relationship thing we had that I think needs to be thrown out there. Overall LDR are HARD. It takes a lot of trust, communication and commitment from both sides. Here’s something I’ve designed for myself and others to follow…guidelines. 1. Both int

That’s where I’m at now…. Gone from the dating world for the last 6 years. Although, I wasn’t very good at it in the first place so now I’m navigating… I’m too straight forward, aggressive, to the point and I don’t play the stupid “Playing hard to get game”. Which let’s face it…that’s just how guys work…even the ones who say they don’t. They find more appeal in the mystery with a hint of tease…then the real thing. It’s perhaps unattractive to them that a woman would like th

I've had so many guys tell me this recently ...what the heck does it really mean? What am I suppose to do with that? I like you....but your not good enough to date... I like you...but your not really my type... I like you....but I just want FWB from you until I find someone I really want I like you...like I like my puppy... I like you...I enjoy time with you, so let me use you until I'm done with you.. I like you....but I'm still gonna treat you like my puppy... I lik